Sunday, October 23, 2005

The Break-Up

Okay, i've got lotsa work, so won't be putting a lot of stuff now. Will do so once things are more settled. Or actually, i've been slacking, that's why~ Haha! (Woke up at 3:30pm today :p) Hope my mom's not looking at this, haha!

Was talking to this friend of mine, and I found out that she's got the same thing as me that i felt. Not we like each other or wat lar, haha! When you break up, you hate it when people tell you to let go, that kinda thing. Isn't it so weird? Haha, that in fact is the most common piece of advice that a friend would give. Don't you think so? "Take it easy lar huh..." and the same old usual stuff. It's funny how we feel so helpless at this point of time when we are the ones usually giving advice to other people, and now that someone has advised you what to do, you choose not to take the advice and instead dread hearing it.

I guess it's coz it's just the thing that we don't want to do, coz of hope... We somehow hope that the person will come back to our lives one day. You know, even if it is the smallest bit of hope, you still hope that it will come true, like you know, somehow god will just be there to make sure that u get your wish and make you happy.

Hope is good. It makes us yearn for something, to believe in something, hoping that it will come true. I was talking to Crystal about this... You know sometimes, hope is good for people, for example, it makes patients believe that treatment can help them, not to give up faith and not to give up as long as there's a chance.

But sometimes, hope can really kill. When expectations are really high, when someone treats it as a belief, when you just yearn so much for it to come true, hope just brings you down! Knowing now or later that it won't be fulfilled or for some other reason, it can sometimes just make u so depressed. That's why there's such a thing as not raising the hopes too high for patients, but instead letting them die with dignity, fulfilling their last wishes and stuff, and letting them go in peace. It really is difficult to judge when to do so...

So i hope my good friend, that u'll not be irritated when other ppl tell u to let it go (Oh yes, there's such a song by Corrine May, and Crystal Goh, where's my Corrine May CD? Haha, unless i forgot u returned it... Erhem!) coz they in fact mean well. Rather be glad that u have them caring for you. Argh, actually i'm pretty sure that u know that and u'll not get irritated, perhaps a little lar huh i guess. Plus i think this is the 2nd time i'm telling u this. Argh, why do i keep repeating myself? Haha! (So now u know my info is not from someone, erhem - unreliable as can be seen - but rather from my own experience)

As what u say... Breathe out and in, take and enjoy ur time and u'll be fine. So take care, stay cool as u are, be strong, enjoy your life and we love ya lots~ Muacks =)

6 comments:

Porky said...

ah, i forgot to add that this might probably be the reason why your friends gave up... thought of it in the bathroom, haha. nite~

crystal said...

so shitty ur post, cos it sounds so gp-ish.

but you know, i never thought that people will get irritated by hearing 'let it go'.. mayb cos thats wat i say but i dont mean to be irritating!!! :(

but really, then what do you say to a friend like this? i dont know.. most of the time i dont even know how to show i care since i cant even offer proper advice.

okay look ur post is getting me depressed about myself. haha.

hmmmm well at least i learnt something? haha

matthew said...

well... i think its still okay for pple to tell you to let it go. dont think theres anything wrong with it, cos a breakup should most probably be sorta a mutual thing anyway.. anything else besides that means one party got _dumped_. not sure if you can make the distinction though.
boys and girls, one thing that i've learnt abt being in relationships is... dont jump in too early. always look before you leap! make sure that such a person is a real potential and not some pseudo-i-think-he's-the-one kind. know what you're looking for.. and life will be so much simpler. if there's no such person around, then just wait. there's no need to rush things.. unless you're looking for a one night stand (haha shit i think im going to get flamed for this)

Porky said...

yes, u're! lol, wait till i tell shin min about this. i shouldn't be saying this crys, but maybel yesterday told me that u give her good advice from a very general kinda perspective so at least it gives her the option of seeing things from a bird's eye view. okay, shit ur ego is boosted! haha, i knew it. talk to ya again about the choosing and realising issue another day. haha, tc...

matthew said...

tell then tell loh.. like im scared like that.. =p shin and i share more or less the same view anyway.. and ive nothing to hide from her.. i am who i am~ same matthew to everybody

Porky said...

wat the... i'm referring to the flaming part boss~ ur one night stand thingy! wah, u took it so seriously. hahaha!